Are You In A Bad Relationship?

About three years ago, I started writing a blog about how to tell if you are in a bad relationship. I had been having relationship problems myself, and it actually just grew out of a journal entry that I was writing on my home computer. Ending relationships is hard for everyone, and even if you know that your relationship problems are insurmountable, you can sometimes lie to yourself for months before you are able to get out of it. All of my friends offered me relationship advice everyone had something to say but none of it really made an impression. I was at a point where I really had to figure it out for myself. No one else could tell me what to do.

This particular one started as a rebound relationship. Both of us had been involved in long term relationships with other people before, and then started dating each other casually once we broke up as a way to relieve some of the stress of being all by ourselves. He seems to really care about me, and it soon started to really pick up. Although some of my friends saw dating warning signs from the beginning, I didn’t really take any of that to heart. They told me that he was controlling, but I thought that he was a pretty sweet guy.

One of the things that people don’t understand is that, when you are in a bad relationship, sometimes advice doesn’t help. Sometimes, the more people tell you that you need to break up, the more you are determined to not listen to what they’re saying. In my case, even when the relationship became abusive, I still wanted to stay with it for awhile. I figured that we could work it out and that it was just a one-time thing. I was sure that I wasn’t in a bad relationship. The funny thing is that, if it had been an abusive friendship, I would have broken it off immediately. I don’t like people taking advantage of me, but somehow that ruled did not apply to this particular dating situation.

I have been in bad relationships before, but it had never gotten to this point. I looked at a lot of online dating advice, but I kept seeing him. The thing that finally told me that it was time to break up was when I reread the things I had been writing. I pretended that I was reading someone else’s blog, and I was shocked when I saw. It was so clear that he was being abusive and that I was in a bad relationship that I couldn’t figure out how I hadn’t seen the signs. Whatever the reason, I’m glad it’s over. I broke things off and I have not been in a bad relationship since.